Help, I Always Look at Porn When I’m Bored

By Craig Gross

Hey, it’s Craig again. Today, we’re talking about looking at porn because you’re bored.

So… is the problem that you’re bored? Or is the problem porn?

We talk about triggers quite a bit, which is certainly valid, but at the end of the day, there’s nothing making you look at porn. Each new realization about our triggers can either be used as a motivator beyond the problem, or as an excuse to stay in it.

Hopefully, this realization will motivate you to avoid the boredom that leads you straight back into the clutches of addiction.

“Oh, I get it! When I have nothing to do, I find myself looking at porn,” or “I’m on my phone – where porn is readily available – more when I’m bored, scrolling through some person’s feed.”

I mean, if you want something practical, let’s get down to brass tax: fill your time with something else. Learn to recognize boredom, and learn to be aware of the fact that boredom loves to lure you into places you don’t want to go.

After all, what’s that saying about idle hands as the devil’s workshop…?

So, first things first: figure that out. If you’re struggling with porn (or anything for that matter), start writing down the times when you find yourself struggling the most.

I’m not saying be busy constantly, for your whole life, but I think there’s some wisdom in filling up your otherwise-empty time so that when temptation comes knocking, you’ve already got other plans.

If you’re bored, go do something! If you’re sitting behind a computer, get off of it! Get out of your room. Get out of your house.

I mean, do you know how many people I’ve talked to that don’t have a hobby?

What do you like to do for relaxation? For fun? To relieve stress? What do you enjoy? So many people that I speak with have completely neglected those questions. Practice self-care. Dream and discover what you might be able to replace your boredom with. There’s a big, amazing world out there.

Find a hobby. Find something you like to do (other than “liking” photos on a screen all day).

Quite frankly, you’ve got better things to do with your day than to spend the majority of it jacking off in your bedroom.

MY FAVORITE QUOTES FROM THIS PODCAST EPISODE

  • We talk about triggers quite a bit, which is certainly valid, but at the end of the day, there’s nothing making you look at porn. Each new realization about our triggers can either be used as a motivator beyond the problem, or as an excuse to stay in it.
  • Learn to recognize boredom, and learn to be aware of the fact that boredom loves to lure you into places you don’t want to go.
  • If you’re struggling with porn (or anything for that matter), start writing down the times when you find yourself struggling the most.
  • There’s wisdom in filling up your otherwise-empty time so that when temptation comes knocking, you’ve already got other plans.
  • If you’re bored, go do something! If you’re sitting behind a computer, get off of it! Get out of your room. Get out of your house.
  • You’ve got better things to do with your day than to spend the majority of it jacking off in your bedroom.

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