QotD: “Spearmint Rhino defeated by Unfunded NGO”

By antiplondon It’s very interesting to compare the BBC’s report to Not Buying It’s own press release. This is another example where ‘sex work is work’, but at the same time ‘sex work’ needs to be treated completely differently to any other kind of ‘work’. If undercover filming had revealed breaches to food hygiene and […]

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RIP Diana E.H. Russell

By antiplondon Rest in Power sister Diana E.H. Russell! Diana died July 28th, 2020 in Oakland, California, at 81 years of age. She was a world-renowned feminist activist, scholar, and author. Few can come close to the legacy of work she leaves behind.https://t.co/K6sM7fndWF — frauenkultur archive (@frauen_kultur) July 31, 2020 The Politics of Rape: The […]

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QotD: “With charges brought in less than 1.5 per cent of reported rapes, Wistrich agrees with the victims commissioner, Dame Vera Baird, that rape has virtually been ‘decriminalised’”

By antiplondon Harriet Wistrich is never far from the news. The campaigning solicitor and founder of the Centre for Women’s Justice (CWJ) has been involved in a string of ground-breaking cases — notably a human rights challenge to the police’s failure to investigate complaints made by two victims of the black cab rapist, John Worboys. […]

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QotD: “Feminist journalists, much more clearly than their mainstream counterparts, understood that gendered grievance can often turn into gendered violence”

By antiplondon It’s striking, now, the breeziness with which so many news outlets amplified the voice of a man who wrote, on his well-publicized website, that “females aren’t here to soothe the ‘savage beast’; the ‘savage beast’ is here to limit their infinite capacity for evil.” And it is notable that one of the corners […]

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QotD: “UK courts would keep Maxwell’s name secret”

By antiplondon How different things might have been if Ghislaine Maxwell had been arrested in Hampshire — perhaps hiding out in a New Forest cottage — rather than New Hampshire? For a start, it is unlikely the Crown Prosecution Service would have been ready to charge her. The wheels of the criminal justice system grind […]

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Healthy Conflict Resolution

By Cynthia Maselli Conflict is inevitable. The determining factor for healthy relationships is not the absence of conflict but the ability to work through them. Many people battling addictions have trouble with conflict resolution. Rather than confronting an issue, one might look at porn as an escape or avoid it. In all the years, I’ve […]

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QotD: “Alleged rape victims will no longer face ‘digital strip searches’ by police”

By antiplondon Controversial consent forms known as “digital strip searches” because they allowed police to examine everything in the mobile phones of rape and sexual offence victims are being scrapped. The National Police Chiefs Council (NPCC) has written to chief constables across the country to announce the forms will be withdrawn and replaced by August […]

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The BBC is cool with pimps, thinks ‘sex work’ is a neutral term, and its report on OnlyFans sounds like a recruitment drive

By antiplondon In reply to my complaint about the BBC’s invitation to ‘pimp your video calls’, I was told this: “However your complaint acknowledges one of the central points at issue, which is that the word is also widely understood as contemporary slang, which for many people has outgrown the associations of its origin.” So […]

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Love That Changes Lives

By Doug Issichopoulos They were going to kill me. Many years ago, a group of men caught me doing something terrible. As they dragged me away, sheer terror exploded through my body like lightning, because I knew they were going to kill me. More than that, I knew how men like these operated: they were […]

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QotD: “The Burning Bed”

By antiplondon For thirteen years, Francine Hughes’s husband, James (Mickey) Hughes, beat her routinely. Something as small as the inflection of a word would set him off: he’d pin her down in a chair and pummel her. They divorced in 1971, but, later that same year, he moved back in. “She did try to get […]

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QotD: “A ban on killers using the “rough sex defence” in England and Wales is set to become law after MPs supported an amendment to the Domestic Abuse Bill”

By antiplondon A ban on killers using the “rough sex defence” in England and Wales is set to become law after MPs supported an amendment to the Domestic Abuse Bill. The bill now rules out “consent for sexual gratification” as a defence for causing serious harm. The wide-ranging legislation will also place a duty on […]

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QotD: “The clause added by the government rules out ‘consent for sexual gratification’ as a defence for causing serious harm”

By antiplondon The amendment outlawing the “rough sex” defence will be added to the Domestic Abuse Bill today, as it enters its Report Stage in the House of Commons. The clause added by the government rules out “consent for sexual gratification” as a defence for causing serious harm, in England and Wales. Labour’s Harriet Harman, […]

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How To Share Your Story to Help Others Through Theirs

By Valorie Kieper Debilitating guilt. Difficult habits. Dehumanized marriage. You recognize the warning signs of sexual addiction because you have firsthand experience. While your story might not be something you’ve shared with everyone, you’ll notice that some people will need to hear it. You’ll find yourself wanting to guide them to the exit. Am I […]

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Why You Need To Forgive To Get Free

By Sathiya Sam Did you know that unforgiveness could be stopping you from overcoming pornography? I’ve worked with a lot of men over the years to help them get free of porn. I’ve worked with young and old, rich and poor, students, doctors, and everything in between. And I’m always amazed at how no one […]

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QotD: “Here’s what’s about ethical porn: it doesn’t matter. It makes up such a tiny proportion of the industry, it’s like putting a chicken in your back garden and claiming you’ve fixed factory farming”

By antiplondon Whenever I agree to write about porn, it’s followed by an immediate plummeting of my soul: oh God, I’m going to have to look at PornHub now. PornHub is the second biggest website in the world for adult content by traffic, but in terms of public profile, it’s far and away the leader. […]

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QotD: “German lawmakers call for buying sex to be made permanently illegal”

By antiplondon Coronavirus has caused Germany’s brothels to close their doors, but some politicians want the ban to become permanent. “Sexual activities are not compatible with social distancing measures,” they wrote to state premiers. Prominent German politicians on Tuesday called for brothels to be closed indefinitely, extending their temporary closure due to coronavirus restrictions. Sixteen […]

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Tangible Steps to Freedom

By Jamie Perez “Motivation is what gets you to start, and habit is what keeps you going.” – Jim Ryun These words summarize the path I’ve taken to healing from my addictions: alcohol, promiscuity, and living a generally hedonistic lifestyle. I remember what first led me to my addictions–pain, boredom, sometimes just an empty feeling […]

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What Happens After 10 Years of No Porn?

By Doug Issichopoulos From a predator to a protector A few years ago, one of my pastors told me, “Men tend to become one of two things: a predator of women or a protector of women.” Again and again, I’ve seen this statement proved right — not just in others’ lives but also in my […]

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You Are Never Too Far Gone

By Matt Galbraith I thought I was too far gone There was a time in my addiction to pornography that I began to believe that I had gone too far. I thought God stopped loving me, that His forgiveness had run out, and that He was done with me. They were all lies, but I […]

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QotD: “More than 60 victims have been forced to go to court over the past decade to deny that they consented to strangulation, assaults or violence”

By antiplondon More than 60 victims have been forced to go to court over the past decade to deny that they consented to strangulation, assaults or violence, according to the campaign to end reliance on the “rough sex” defence. Figures for the number of such court appearances have been collected by the organisation We Can’t […]

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Help! My Spouse Just Told Me They Watch Porn.

By Kate Botha You can see in your spouse’s eyes that something is wrong. His eyes shift nervously to different things in the room but never meet yours. She opens her mouth to speak, but no words come out. Whether you are the wife or the husband waiting for your spouse to tell you what’s […]

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QotD: “A Canadian teenager is facing the country’s first “incel”-related terrorism charges in connection with a machete attack at a Toronto massage parlour that left a young mother dead”

By antiplondon A Canadian teenager is facing the country’s first “incel”-related terrorism charges in connection with a machete attack at a Toronto massage parlour that left a young mother dead. It is believed to be the first Canadian terror case not tied to Islamic extremism and could mark a turning point, experts say, as the […]

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