I Feel Like Crap When I Look at Porn, Which Then Makes Me Want to Look at Porn Again. How Do I Break This Cycle?

By Craig Gross

Hey, it’s Craig. The question on the podcast this week is:

“I look at porn and I feel like crap. But then I look at more porn to help me feel less like crap, which makes me feel more like crap. How do I break this cycle?”

Well, I know that what you’re describing isn’t a pleasant experience, but your answer is actually right there in the question.

You’re engaging in something that gives you a few seconds’ worth of pleasure, but afterward, you feel terrible. The ecstasy is fleeting and leaves you feeling awful.

If you feel like crap without porn, you’re going to feel like crap with porn. I think the bigger question is, why do you feel like crap?

I mean it, though. It’s so easy to run away from how we’re feeling, but what if you were to really sit in the discomfort of that question…?

Why do you feel like crap?

Did you have a bad day at work? Did you get in a fight with your spouse? Did you receive devastating news?

Sometimes, we ascribe to porn the blame that would be better attributed to the root issue beneath (and fueling) our unwanted actions. If porn was out of the equation, would you feel the same?

Ask yourself, “Why don’t I feel joy? Why don’t I have peace? Why am I walking around feeling like crap all of the time?”

Obviously, adding porn to how you’re feeling is just going to make it worse. Take some time. Dive deep. See what comes up.

MY FAVORITE QUOTES FROM THIS PODCAST EPISODE

  • If you feel like crap without porn you’re going to feel like crap with porn.
  • I think the bigger question is: why do you feel like crap?
  • Sometimes, we ascribe to porn the blame that would be better attributed to the root issue beneath (and fueling) our unwanted actions.
  • Obviously, adding porn to how you’re feeling is just going to make it worse. Take some time. Dive deep. See what comes up.

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