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It’s late Saturday night and you’re checking your Instagram one last time before going to sleep.
Unexpectedly, you receive a message from an attractive girl who tells you she’s looked through your profile and she thinks you’re really cute. You don’t know this girl, but that doesn’t matter. She’s attractive, remember? And while you know porn bots are all over Instagram, this girl definitely seems real, so you go with it.
The conversation progresses quickly as she tells you about some of the more intimate details of her life. Eventually, after she’s “opened up to you,” she asks you to open up to her—she wants you to send her an explicit video of yourself.
She’s beautiful and she did, in fact, open up quite a lot to you about her personal life, so why not send her a video? It’s harmless, right?
This has all the telltale signs of a sextortion story, a story in which non-physical forms of coercion are used to acquire sexual content from, engage in sex with, or obtain money from the victim. And that definitely is not a situation anyone wants to be in.
Don’t believe us? Let’s see what you think after you’ve learned about the story of Tevan Tobler—a true sextortion story.
Why one high school student took his own life in the midst of being sextorted
Meet Tevan Tobler, a 16-year-old honor student who was the former president of the National Junior Honor Society, a champion high school wrestler, and an active member in his local community.
On September 18, 2017, to the shock of everyone that knew him, Tobler took his own life.
Initially, police thought that his tragic suicide had been influenced by a broken home, drugs, or low self-esteem.
However, Davis County sheriff detective John Peirce noted Tobler “was someone with no mental health history, substance abuse history, and no suicidal ideology. (He) had good grades in school, was involved in athletics and had many friends. The final toxicology report was negative for all substances. He had a good home life and a wonderful family.”
The police knew something wasn’t right. As Tobler’s mother put it, “This isn’t a normal case. Something is [missing].”
A couple of weeks after his passing, Tobler’s father happened to look through his son’s cellphone records. And that’s when things all started making sense.
Tobler had been contacted by an unknown phone number over 1,000 times—in some cases there were messages coming in every 30 seconds.
The sheriff’s office found that Tobler had downloaded an app onto his phone, over which he had sent an explicit video of himself to a female, or someone posing as a female. The person who received the video, now believed to be living in the Ivory Coast (a small country in western Africa), immediately requested money from Tobler in exchange for their keeping the explicit video private.
While in most cases threats cease after ample money has been received, that was not the case with Tobler’s sextorter, the person who uses the victim’s sexual content to coerce the victim.
According to Sheriff Peirce, even after Tobler had sent all the money he had, the threats continued; the sextorter went so far as to tell Tobler that he should kill himself.
Sadly, that’s what happened.
The dark truth about sextortion
It’s a heartbreaking fact that Tobler’s story is not unique. Sextortion is a real problem that has and continues to affect many in our digital age
In Logan, Utah, police noted that a 14-year-old girl had sent an adult male “several pornographic images and videos of herself via Instagram and text message” in exchange for money. However, when the girl refused to continue communicating with the man, he became angry and threatened to upload the explicit images and videos of her unless she paid him $2,000.
Another sextortion incident occurred last December when an 18-year-old student from Utah State University was contacted over Instagram by an unknown person who had obtained explicit photos of her when she was younger. The person warned the student that they had “many more pics and vids like these from hacking your phone” and that they would “send them around to your family, friends, and around campus” if she tried to “delete [her] account, block [them], or tell anyone…”
And, in some cases, these sextortion stories end up in someone being trafficked.
The head of an Illinois-based anti-sex trafficking nonprofit, whom we’ll call “Annie,” shared with us in an interview that some of the survivors of trafficking she ends up working with felt compelled to prostitute themselves because they had been sextorted.
“They see no other way out,” she explained to us. “They feel they’ve ruined their lives already and they think they’ll ruin the lives of those they love if they know [about the explicit images and videos they’ve shared], so at least, by prostituting themselves, they’ll protect their families.”
These are just a select few of the many real-life examples, but you get the point: sextortion is a big problem of our time.
Why this matters
Consider how porn culture, specifically webcam chatting, has normalized and fueled what once was considered risky behavior. Clearly, that behavior becomes even riskier when we take into account the way technology does little to protect users’ privacy and allows for the immediate distribution of content.
All it takes is the click of a button to change your life—and not for the better.
But as Tobler’s parents say, sextortion cases can happen to [anyone], no matter where they live, no matter what race or background they are, no matter their socioeconomic status, and no matter what school clique they fall into.
Swapping nudes and explicit pics is so normalized in our culture, too many people forget about the risks of pressing “send,” not that anyone deserves to be extorted or abused as a result. If you or someone you know is being sextorted or blackmailed with revenge porn, know that it is not worth your sanity, nor is it worth your life. While having explicit personal photos distributed can be humiliating, it’s always better to talk to someone rather than attempting to fix the problem on your own.
Read up on the risks of sexting, and think of how you can best protect yourself from sextortion, first. We encourage you to talk to trusted adult, whether that be a parent, a mentor, a counselor, a community leader, a police officer—someone older and wiser than you who can help you find a solution.
Remember that help is available and that you are not alone.
If you or someone you know is struggling with thoughts of suicide, you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.
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